Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
This is a touchy subject for many reasons. I did not wish to cover this issue at all on my site, as it usually deals with prophetic matters as well as other news and world events. However, since last November the LORD has directed me to write on this topic. I delayed (secretly hoping the LORD would forget!) Well, you and I both know better than that! He has ceased to gently remind me and has begun to gently chide me on this so, in case you ask why I am writing on this topic, that is the reason why, delayed obedience. Lord, forgive my tardiness. I give everyone here a little forewarning; this article is not for the timid as it deals with some real practical issues. It is written to be a ‘down to earth’ look at God’s holy institution.
Marriage is a very holy institution ordained by God. It is not to be looked upon or engaged in lightly or with impure motives. In God’s eyes, a man and a woman who are joined in matrimony become one flesh, in essence a single person. This union is blessed by God when it is engaged in with all reverence for God, sincere love, respect and admiration for each other and conducted before Godly witnesses.
This is not what is happening in America today, or in the rest of the western world for that matter. As divorce rates skyrocket in the secular world and the Church, it seems evident that Marriage is losing its solemnity. There are many reasons for this, some of which are:
The rise of self
The ‘me’ generation puts self interest above all else; Above the marriage, above their spouses and above their children. If it does not feel good or is not in keeping with the dictates of selfishness and materialism then those things are jettisoned.
The rise of the new ‘sexuality’
Sex with multiple partners, wife swapping, bi and homosexuality and other disgusting practices are becoming more and more commonplace and even acceptable in society, thus marginalizing the institution of Marriage.
Marriage as a way to get rich
Many women, (and some men too) look upon marriage as a way to get hold of someone else’s wealth. Marry someone, live with them a couple of years, maybe have a baby, divorce them and take them ‘to the cleaners’ as the saying goes. This is not at all uncommon. This practice is making many men extremely reluctant to get married in today’s wealth and luxury obsessed society. A very interesting article on this called “The Marriage Strike” covers this.
The unscrupulousness of people in general.
Lets face it squarely. Morality in American is in a rapid decline and people are simply not trustworthy. People lie, cheat and steal without conscious. This kind of morality breeds divorce like rats breed the plague. And just like the plague of the middle ages, they never knew it was the rats that carried the disease. Today it is the lack of morality and self-centeredness.
In the Church the problem goes to two basic issues
· Rebellion against God’s clear and repeated instructions on how to view marriage and the roles of men and women in this holy union.
· Unregenerate parishioners. Lots of folks in the Church have not come to know Christ in a way that will save their souls.
In our fast paced society a spouse is often viewed like last years fashion, when it is out of style, change it for a new one. I remember one cheap quip a TV character made years ago, 'Q:What do you do when you wife turns forty? A: Change her in for two twenties'. Sick yes, but that is increasingly the way marriage is viewed by the unsaved. More than half of all marriages end in divorce. In the world of professing Christians, the statistics are just as bad, and in some studies even worse. What is happening? In short it is a wholesale assault on marriage and the family. This assault has spiritual, social and political undertones. TV shows and movies glorify fornication, adultery and increasingly homosexuality as being good. Subtle messages are also clear to discerning eyes that married couples who are monogamous are often derided in movies or are cast in an unsympathetic light. Over and over again messages are put out that undermine the basic institution of marriage and glorify the ‘new sexuality’. These cultural cues are very potent in American society. Why? Mainly because it has become ‘hip’ and ‘cool’ to engage in extramarital sex, take drugs, steal a little, lie a little more and disregard any ethical and moral foundation other than, 'if it feels good do it'.
But a Godly marriage is nothing like anything described above. It is a holy union between two Christians who revere God and are committed to obeying his commandments. Brothers and sisters, no marriage will be very happy for very long and blessed by God without that reverence for God’s word. Yet the real problem in many marriages is selectiveness in applying God’s principles. Sometimes those principles are woefully misapplied. For example, The man may say, ‘I’m the head of the household but my wife won’t obey me’. An example would about what is being watched on TV and the man wants to watch something totally inappropriate and the woman isn’t going along; a fight ensues and the man misapplies the scripture. Yes it is true that the man is the head of the household in a Christian marriage but the head of the man is Christ. Today that view is being challenged by many feminists who now sit in positions of power in the Churches (another clear and repeated scriptural no-no). Over and over again God tells us how to set up his church and over and over again the Devil creeps in and says ‘Yeah, hath God said?’ Let us never forget that it was Eve that was first deceived because the devil attacked the weaker vessel. Today the same thing is happening in the Church and more specifically in marriages.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Many a woman needs to take stock of this before she enters into marriage with any man. If she is to have her marriage blessed and not walk in rebellion to God, she must be willing to submit to a Godly man’s leadership in the house. If she is not willing to do that for the rest of her natural life, she should under no circumstances get married. For the men, It is important that you put the interest of your wives (not necessarily her wants and desires, but interests) first and foremost, in your minds only behind your duty to God. Men are commanded to love their wives. This is not a command that God makes to women. God may not be able to fully command our emotions but he can and does command our actions.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
(1 Peter 3:1)
Yes believe it or not, those verses are actually in the Bible! While I speak rather facetiously here, but it should behoove each and every man and woman who is bound in marriage to read these verses with great care because in them you will find the root cause of so many of your marital problems. Women who want to run the household and be the boss, men who despise their wives or are too wimpy to stand up and take charge in a Godly but firm way are things that these verses should stop when they are applied. Notice here that Peter goes one step further as he does not differentiate between a woman who is married to a saved man or an unsaved one. She is to be in subjection to her husband.
This is hard for many women to accept. Many simply will not accept these verses as they are written. American women have won many rights are freedoms over the past 100 years. Most of these freedoms in and of themselves are good. Yet many feminists always had the Christian view of womanhood as their primary target in their crusade to abolish their ‘shackles’. It is this view of women as being the weaker vessel, women being made for the man and not vice-versa, and women being in subjection to their husbands that was under attack in the first part of the 20th Century. The Bible, contrary to what many feminists say, does not denigrate women; it rather puts them in position of honor in the Church. But that place is not in command over men, as the Scriptures make very clear.
(Divorce, Fornication and Adultery)
For it seemed good to the Holy Spirit, and to us, to lay upon you no greater burden than these necessary things: that ye abstain from things sacrificed to idols, and from blood, and from things strangled, and from fornication; from which if ye keep yourselves, it shall be well with you. Fare ye well. So they, when they were dismissed, came down to Antioch; and having gathered the multitude together, they delivered the epistle.
Marriage must be holy and that means specifically and most certainly no fornication of any kind. No adultery, no child molestation, no incest, no sex of any kind outside of the marriage bed. In fact this is the only reason Christ gives as a legitimate reason for divorce. It most instructive to note the reasons Christ did not give. Just some of the things that are now grounds for divorce in many states are:
These vary somewhat from state to state but these are many of the reasons one can go before a court of this world and get a divorce. Yet the only reason that Christ gives is serious Sex Sin (fornication). Here the word of God and the laws of this world are in serious conflict. This conflict cannot be resolved in a way that allows a person to divorce his or her Christian husband or wife for any other reason, WHATSOEVER.
And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
This is a hard saying, but one that if not obeyed leads those who rebel against this saying of the LORD into a place of rebellion, adultery and open sin. This is the state of many a Christian today. They have divorced their Christian wives (or husbands) for reasons other than fornication and married another. That is why the disciples said that it is better not to marry! When you hook up with someone you are stuck with that person for life.
The simple fact is that any remarriage even in the case where the offending party has committed fornication is forbidden. The only time such divorce and remarriage is permitted is when, after one member of the marriage gets saved and the unbelieving husband or wife leaves the marriage , then the believer is no longer bound in marriage and is free to re-marry.
Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.
One thing that I know really bothers God is the dissolution of any marriage. Malachi 2:16 shows what God thinks about it. Now some will claim that this was in reference to the practice of putting away one’s wife without a bill of divorcement. This is only partly true. God did hate that, he also hated divorce because notice how Christ holds both practices in contempt. The practice of putting away was common in Israel and even justified by many in Israel’s religious establishment. The same is happening today in the Church, God says to do one thing and the Church gets its long line of (often, divorced and remarried) religious personages and apostates to tell you that God did not mean what he said; that you really can even get a divorce if your spouse forgot to put the cap back on the tube of toothpaste.
The only time divorce and remarriage is allowed is this: A person gets saved and the unbelieving spouse leaves the marriage.
Divorce by a saved person is only allowed in cases of fornication, however, in such cases remarriage is not allowed.
Another problem that I see in many of the writings of the American religious leaders is that they go back and quote Moses in the Old Covenant to justify divorce for reasons that fit their desires rather than God’s. For example
If the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorce, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, who took her to be his wife;
Now take a look at this verse. It says if the husband hates his wife he can divorce her.
Yet the commands of the New Testament are quite clear that a man is Commanded (not suggested) to love his wife. Thus, this cause is no longer valid for any truly born again believer. Yes, we have a new commandment. What is that Commandment?
A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
Hate is forbidden, even and especially in a marriage. Thus we see that the Law of Moses for a servant of Christ is null and void. I will say it again, the Law of Moses is null and void on a Christian because we have a new commandment and from that commandment there is no need for the old Law.
In fact, Christ’s response to the query about divorce shows a remarkable revelation. The whole divorce thing was Moses’ idea, borne out of his exasperation with the hardness of the people’s heart. People, I might add that did not enter the promised land. It was Moses’ temper and exasperation with God that got him into hot water with God before. I am not attempting to judge or criticize God’s faithful servant and friend, Moses. Nevertheless Christ here points out that it was Moses’ own human failing that brought divorce about because as Christ makes it clear, “but from the beginning it was not so”
It this important fact that we should remember when reading and getting guidance on this subject from the Torah. It is also important to remember this as well; many people are looking for an escape clause. They want a way out of their marriages and will try to find a priest, pastor, prophet who will tell them what they want to hear. Their real desire (first love) is not to obey God, but to free themselves of failed marriages or a way to marry someone else that they have fallen in love with while married to another.
The real motivation here is selfishness and rebellion. Let us not mice words because that is what it ultimately boils down to. Many, many Christians are living in terrible (soul losing) sin with their secularly recognized marriages. They divorced their saved spouses for unscriptural reasons and married another without God’s approval or consent. Can you imagine standing before God on Judgment day and explain to God what happened to you spouse.
(not so) Fictional Exchange at Judgment Day
The LORD: Were is your wife, Natasha?
Man: I divorced here years ago, Lord.
The LORD: The two of you are one flesh, did you not heed my word and believe the thing that I said?
Man: Well Lord, she always nagged me about taking out the trash and my long hours at work, besides I found someone who really loved me!
The LORD: You did not answer my question, where is your wife Natasha? And why have you mated with that adulteress who made Natasha, your wife, live like a widow? You have erred greatly and your adulteries with that harlot are as numberless as the stars, neither have you repented of this thing, though I gave you space and time to do so.
And why do you call me Lord and do not the things that I say?
The LORD: Depart from me ye that work iniquity!
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
And I gave her space to repent of her fornication; and she repented not. Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds. And I will kill her children with death; and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works.
Yes brothers and sisters, when Christ gives us a commandment we had better follow it. This whole idea of picking and choosing which commandments we will obey is the root cause of the compromise, luke-warmness and outright apostasy in the American Church. The Church more today resembles a Sodomite sex-train that a holy vessel separated to the LORD; homosexuals in the pulpit, as deacons, rampant divorce, remarriage (multiple times), child molestations… this is entity is not going to get into heaven in its present state.
I strongly believe that the root cause of all of this stems from a lack of respect for the marriage bed. It starts with the seemingly littlest thing; allowing divorce for things not allowed for by the LORD and moves on from there. Satan never comes in to the house of the LORD with great clanking iron shoes in a red suit with a pitchfork in his hands, surrounded by flames. He comes in a business suit and lots of worldly respectability and simply offers a suggestion carefully chosen to target human weakness.
Fornication is such a grave matter that Paul demanded the removal of one Fornicator from the Church
I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators: Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world. But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat. For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within? But them that are without God judgeth. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person.
In the ancient days under the old law, adultery was punished by death. Death! Today that idea is almost laughable but I say it isn't anything remotely funny. Adultery is no a laughing matter to God; it is a extremely serious crime and sin. Some ancient societies repaid that adulterer with various forms of mutilation and the famous Hammurabi Code stipulated drowning as punishment for adultery.
And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death.
You adulterers out there, be most thankful we are not under the Mosaic Law but rather tremble with fear, for until you utterly repent of this thing, do not expect to see life eternal! Adultery is an extremely serious matter in God's eyes.
Indeed the issue of Adultery was looked upon as a matter of National Security.
If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.
Yes it was just that important And Paul's reaction to the fornicator shows what God thinks of all sex sin.
The Sex Game.
Let us cover some very practical issues here. As I scout the net sometimes I am struck my many things that effect regular people and their problems, saved and unsaved. There is one site (that is completely worldly in its views) that I find interesting, somewhat useful and a little entertaining because of its brutal honesty. It deals with marriage and sex in a way that is neither Godly nor holy but once you get past his clearly unchristian suggestions it really does have something to say. Now before any of you get on your high-horse, the site tells it like it is, or at least how many men view marriage. No I am not going to provide a link because of some of the content (it just has some very ungodly suggestions about marriage). But I find one thing from this site discusses that Paul talks about clearly but that most Christian sites avoid. It can only be described as ‘the sex game’ and it is clearly described and expounded on in the referenced site. Both partners play this game on the other though frankly, the men seem to be the victim of this game more than the women. It goes like this.
Man does something woman does not like or won’t do something woman wants, thus angering the woman.
Woman withholds Sex.
Man gets frustrated, sometimes leading (after prolonged periods or repeated game playing) to adultery.
Woman divorces man.
Woman takes Man’ kids, takes man’s house, forces him to pay alimony and child support.
Man is broke, woman lives real good and finds new mate
Man dies of heart attack in mid-40’s, broke and alone.
This is not woman bashing, this is a common complaint of many men and some live in fear and dread of their wives because of the enormous power the courts have given women in divorce cases. Men, in most cases will lose their kids, and pay child support, no matter who is at fault. Women will often keep the house and have her income supplemented by her ex.
The Bible does not allow a woman to defraud her husband sexual relations, or vice versa.
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Men and women who play this sex game are sinning against their own marriages and flesh. Neither partner has power over their own bodies. So this is where those individuals who play the sex game err.
I hate to get down to such basics, but these things are destroying marriages all over America. People (men and women) do not take their vows, responsibilities and roles in the marriage seriously and this has led to the spate of divorces we see today… IN THE CHURCH.
I will give all of you women a clear and concise reason why men are not getting married as before, won’t commit, demand pre-nuptial agreements and some men, if I hear what some are saying correctly, have turned to homosexuality. It is because of a plethora of predatory females who look on marriage as a way to get their hands on wealth. I know many of you think this is woman bashing, but before the LORD, I say that it is not. It is a real problem and men just are not falling for the traps that they see other men fall for which ends in financial ruin; not for the woman, but usually for the man.
Ladies listen, I know many men are jerks, some of them probably on some level deserve everything they get. I do not dispute that for a minute. But there are many that are not jerks and do not deserve it at all and have been messed over by a legal system that preys on men with assets. I do not want to digress too much here, but I feel that I need to address these issues in a real sense rather than trying to sound ‘too holy’ to talk about them.
Thus dear women, especially you younger ones who are looking for a mate, men are getting hip to the tricks and are not laying down for them anymore. If you really want a Godly man as a husband, then you will have to prove yourself to be a Godly woman who really respects and honors God’s commandments.
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
This view of a woman is diametrically opposed to what we young people see on TV, movies and magazines. The devil has his ‘perfect’ woman and God has his. You women out there must choose which kind you will be. There is the Godly woman described above and then there are the females described below.
Moreover the LORD saith, Because the daughters of Zion are haughty, and walk with stretched forth necks and wanton eyes, walking and mincing as they go, and making a tinkling with their feet: Therefore the Lord will smite with a scab the crown of the head of the daughters of Zion, and the LORD will discover their secret parts. In that day the Lord will take away the bravery of their tinkling ornaments about their feet, and their cauls, and their round tires like the moon, The chains, and the bracelets, and the mufflers, The bonnets, and the ornaments of the legs, and the headbands, and the tablets, and the earrings, The rings, and nose jewels, The changeable suits of apparel, and the mantles, and the wimples, and the crisping pins, The glasses, and the fine linen, and the hoods, and the vails. And it shall come to pass, that instead of sweet smell there shall be stink; and instead of a girdle a rent; and instead of well set hair baldness; and instead of a stomacher a girding of sackcloth; and burning instead of beauty. Thy men shall fall by the sword, and thy mighty in the war. And her gates shall lament and mourn; and she being desolate shall sit upon the ground.
Everything in this passage shows a woman who is doing everything she can to attract the attention of the opposite sex and puffed up in pride at their outward beauty.
Men, do not get trapped by a selfish, haughty and materialistic woman. Don’t be taken in by beautiful blue eyes, sexy hips or a wonderful new hair-do. That stuff fades away a lot quicker than you think and you will be stuck with what lies beneath all that deceptive, fading beauty for the rest of your days. Be sure she really loves God as well as you and not just your bank account, your nice house or SUV. If you really want a Godly woman who will respect your leadership of the household, then be a godly man now and obey God’s commandments. That can start with no sex before marriage. That’s right, stop screwing. I am not going to call it love making because that is something that is done in the marriage bed. Pre-marital sex is fornication and a grievous sin. Thus, I will call a spade a spade and call it what it is. If you are not married, stop making excuses and do as the LORD commands. The proper place for sex is in marriage. Period.
I am sorry if I sound a little ‘raw’, but today’s morality as it is portrayed in TV, movies, magazines and on the web is not God’s morality. It is Satan’s morality and it is stealing the souls of our young people who think it is ‘beautiful’ to have sex before marriage while high on ecstasy.
Finally, I must impress upon each of you that it is important that we not ignore God’s commandments.
See that ye refuse not him that speaketh. For if they escaped not who refused him that spake on earth, much more shall not we escape, if we turn away from him that speaketh from heaven: Whose voice then shook the earth: but now he hath promised, saying, Yet once more I shake not the earth only, but also heaven.
Yes God is going to shake the earth as well as the heavens in the coming days. Let us not rebel against his express commandments on this most important subject. For the entire subject of marriage does have a prophetic aspect.
The Marriage Prophecies
For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark,
Prophetically speaking this is a sign of the times. The day I wrote this I just did a little Google news search on the term 'marriage'. I got all kinds of results. Gay couples with tax troubles, Hindu weddings in America, marriage plans by aging rock stars and forced marriage in some Islamic societies. Yes, it does seem that the people are marrying and given in marriage while at the same time the war drums beat and the prophecies of the Bible are being fulfilled.
Yet I have long suspected that those marrying and giving in marriage were not just ordinary people doing what people have always done. I wrote on this a couple of years ago and those of you who have not read on this important issue should give this article a prayerful (I really mean that) read. http://www.markswatson.com/WebSite/sonsofGod.htm
Brothers and sisters I do not want to get off on a tangent here, so rather than spend a lot of time on this I will let that article speak for itself.
Who else is getting married in these evil days? I am sure you know where I am going.
This is an abomination, an idea whose impetus is being driven from hell. It is an act that is aimed directly at God and his plan. It is spit in God’s eye and that is what the world is doing when it accepts this. All of you who have come by this site know that I do not and will not countenance hatred of any person; not drug addicts or adulterer’s; not, whoremongers, robbers or gays. God is a God of love and commands us to love all, including and especially sinners. But sin and the acknowledgment of it for what it is, a crime against God, are central to the gospel message. Thus, we should never hate gays, but speak out clearly about homosexuality and yes, gay marriage. It is not that we as Christians are going to have much effect on the Society; I believe it is too late for that. It has chosen its god and is running at full speed into the devils arms jettisoning all good conscious along the way. But we can and are commanded to bear witness to the truth, and we must rebuke sin.
Let us remember that God destroyed the old world and only Noah and eight souls were saved in those days. God is going to shake the heavens and the earth next time and will turn the earth upside down in his fury at the iniquity found therein.
The Marriage Supper
There is coming a great day of Joy for the Redeemed of the LORD. It is called the Marriage supper of the Lamb. It is a time of great joy and a time when God will join his Church to his Son in a great feast.
In the old days before a marriage took place, a wedding contract was signed by the parents of the bride and bridegroom. This contract sealed an agreement and after a period had elapsed (about a year) the two were wed.
The groom would go out with his friends at night with his buddies and visit the bride’s house on the night of the wedding (at Midnight) and then the Bride would accompany the bridegroom and his friends to his house.
Then shall the kingdom of heaven be likened unto ten virgins, which took their lamps, and went forth to meet the bridegroom. And five of them were wise, and five were foolish. They that were foolish took their lamps, and took no oil with them: But the wise took oil in their vessels with their lamps. While the bridegroom tarried, they all slumbered and slept. And at midnight there was a cry made, Behold, the bridegroom cometh; go ye out to meet him. Then all those virgins arose, and trimmed their lamps. And the foolish said unto the wise, Give us of your oil; for our lamps are gone out. But the wise answered, saying, Not so; lest there be not enough for us and you: but go ye rather to them that sell, and buy for yourselves. And while they went to buy, the bridegroom came; and they that were ready went in with him to the marriage: and the door was shut. Afterward came also the other virgins, saying, Lord, Lord, open to us. But he answered and said, Verily I say unto you, I know you not. Watch therefore, for ye know neither the day nor the hour wherein the Son of man cometh.
It is the anticipation of the wedding feast that should have the virgins (Church) in anticipation. The Second Coming of the LORD is our blessed hope and the Wedding Supper our joy. The foolish Virgins had lamps but had no oil inside them. The common interpretation of this parable is that the foolish virgins were not filled with the Holy Spirit and thus were not prepared. This is correct, but I think there may be another way to look at it. The oil goes inside those lamps and the lamps themselves (the outside) are only what people see. I see this as being that those who were foolish only had the outward profession of Christianity but the inside is empty; there is no Christ residing in their hearts. They were all show but inside they were not unlike the Pharisees whom Christ said were full of dead men’s bones.
Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye are like unto whited sepulchres, which outwardly appear beautiful, but inwardly are full of dead men's bones, and of all uncleanness. Even so ye also outwardly appear righteous unto men, but inwardly ye are full of hypocrisy and iniquity.
Our light is to shine before men and in order to do that we must have the oil of the Holy Spirit. These foolish Virgins did not have that light, they couldn’t without the oil. They were all (wise and foolish virgins) in the same chamber (Church) waiting for the LORD but only those with the light in their lamps (lives) got saved. Let us also take extremely careful note at the LORD’s rebuke to the foolish Virgins; “I know you not”. These virgins never knew Christ, they were not even born again. How do I know they were not born again?
And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent.
I say this because the fate of those foolish virgins is that they lose their souls and are not saved.
This is a teaching that I know many of you do not like me to repeat but I will say it over and over again. There are many out there in the Church who have been outwardly Christian all their lives but have never had the ‘oil’ of the Holy Spirit enter their lives, they are lost souls in Church many of whom do not even know that they are lost.
They have no light. What do I mean?
Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.
For a man to come into union with Christ at the wedding supper he must have the same divine nature dwelling in him. That nature comes from the regeneration of the new birth. Let me tell you when you have been born again you are going to know it! Now is the time to ensure that Christ is the light of our lives and is guiding us and leading us into all righteousness, love and peace.
Brothers and sisters, I know many of you are going to hate me with a perfect hatred after reading this article. I am fully prepared for it. I did not want to write on this issue for that very reason. I hate to say it, but I was a little afraid of all the criticism I knew I would get and that was one of the reasons I hesitated so long to obey the LORD. I knew there would be 'wailing and gnashing of teeth' over this topic. Once again, may God forgive me! I know just about everyone who reads this is not going to agree. The SEX drive, bitterness and anger and new love affairs are all very powerful motivators (away from Christ) and has led many people into decisions that are rebellious against Christ's Commandments. Paul said it was better not to marry. Paul is an apostle, anointed of God to guide the Church. He knew what he was talking about! The disciples said that it was better not to marry (when Christ answered questions on it). Paul promised troubles4 in the flesh for married people and he was right. I just don't think people really know just how much trouble he meant! Things get hard and they want to divorce and remarry. So some of you are going to go away mad at me because I am telling you what the scriptures teach, not what the apostates are teaching in the Churches. Be mad, be angry if you want. I will bear witness to the truth of God's commandments. If you want to hear something different or have someone who will tell you what you want to hear, then you will have to go to the prophets of baal who prophesy for money; they will tickle your ears all the way into the lake of fire.
I am not trying to cast a snare on any person who wants to marry and is free, in the Lord, to do so. I suspect they will not have any big troubles with this article. It is older adults who are not free but are looking for a way around Christ's commands that will get angry. I have one word for those of you who are having trouble with this teaching.
And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me.
After some prayer the LORD has gave me some encouragement over this teaching and said these things to me.
They are not going to accept what you wrote.
I said take up your cross and follow me. But they want to marry and remarry without my blessing or consent.
Do not fear what they say nor be afraid.
I chose you to write on this because there is rampant divorce and remarriage even in the 'prophetic movement' and they will not do it.
For those of you who are curious and wondering. I am not married. I have never been married and don’t expect I ever will be. I have no children and thus am not in a position to speak in the first person about marital experiences and problems, so please don’t write me to ask. I am not a marital expert nor am I a marital counselor and may the Lord spare me that difficult task! Dealing with two people who may have been at odds with each other for years and try to sort out the bitterness and anger that resides underneath is more than I think I could deal with on a regular basis. So please, do not ask me about any marital advice. Get with a pastor who is God fearing who loves God to help you sort through your problems.
Finally, for those of you who are divorced, I do have one more thing to add that is rather important. That is this; if you have children by your ex-spouse, put their needs (the Children's) above yours and do not use your kids as a weapon against your former spouse. Let the children spend time with their both of their real parents and do not instill bitterness in the child towards its other parent in a twisted scheme to ‘get back’ at a real or imagined wrong. Don’t teach your kids to hate their mother or father!
May all who serve God and are in a marriage union honor God in that union and may your children be blessed!
In Christ Jesus,
Mark S. Watson
 Paul seems to refer in the passage to women, as the feminine pronoun is used. I do not believe that this only applies to women but to men as well. In ancient Rome many of the practices were clearly ‘sexist’ and this may have caused Paul to use the feminine pronoun rather that the all inclusive male.
 Natash is Hebrew for cast off, forsaken
 Men should pay for their children, I am not exonerating men who abandon this responsibility nor am I in sympathy with dead-beat dads.
From G2346; pressure (literally or figuratively): - afflicted, (-tion), anguish, burdened, persecution, tribulation, trouble.